The COVID pandemic has brought more than infection; it has demanded change. I’m not focusing on COVID since it has been a primary topic in the media for months now. I am going to address COVID-induced factors that may be causing distress in your personal relationship. Many couples have lost income due to closing businesses or illness, leading to increased worry and stress. Being forced to stay home for an extended time period may cause couples to beg for some time apart. Being together 24/7 can make up for time lost with working and raising children, but it can also remind couples of partner traits they have tried to avoid. Additionally, schools are closed and parents are suddenly with their children 24/7 and having to manage their coursework.
Routines have been disrupted. Previous stress-relieving outlets are not accessible. Many are working from home, which may not be an ideal environment. Many roles are shifting and the transition has been hard. Couples have more time to analyze one another and can no longer use a busy life to avoid relationship issues. Divorce rates have increased since the pandemic, but you can get through these hard times. It will take commitment and teamwork.
Here are some quick tips to consider:
- Create a plan together that integrates individual and relationship goals.
- Make sure to spend time alone, even if that means hanging out in the hammock for an hour.
- Engage in self-care, even if that looks different than before.
- Be mindful about maintaining your individuality.
- Communicate daily using open-ended questions that spark conversation about how you both are making it through.
- Try to say at least one thing nice/positive to your partner each day, better yet, do something kind.
- Commit to getting through this even if you aren’t getting along. Come up with a signal that lets your partner know you’re overwhelmed.
- Try journaling your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations every night to throw it away so you can start fresh the next day. Also, journal positive experiences and ideas.
- If your relationship is so hurt that you are considering divorce/ending the relationship it may be time for therapy.
Yes, you can make an appointment with a therapist for individual needs or couples counseling using telehealth. Borum and Associates has provided telehealth services. Just visit the website or call the office to schedule that appointment
At the end of the day, you can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or what’s keeping you together. –Anonymous
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